You know this state when everything and everyone irritates you? Even the things that don’t apply to you? The driver turning without using direction light, people on the bus crowding at the entrance, badly parked car when you don’t even own a car - there’s plenty of examples. All that irritation goes directly to aggression that is not worth feeding.
Whenever we direct our attention outside, even the smallest “wrongs” can irritate you. Irritation is hard to hide and reactions - even the tiny ones: small gesture, face, timbre of voice or bigger reactions that include words - have negative impact over our relation with the world. On the other side of them there is also a person, like us, having habits and reactions. One friend asked me once replying to my comment over some unimportant detail - “why are you so negative?” That made me thinking. And just then I started analyzing my attitude towards the world. I realized then that not only my focus was all the time outside but also it concentrated on details and negative events. It was weakening me - literally. I started to be mindful of my attention focus then. Whenever I feel becoming irritated - I take a deep breath and look for inner perspective to see the events through it.
Don’t I give a damn?
Someone might believe he doesn’t care about the outside world. Oh, yes, he does. A lot. Just irritation proves he does. If one doesn’t care about the world, doesn’t care about people around, one doesn’t care what they think or how they act. We - humans - are social beings. We have that natural need to function among others. Irritation messes up with our internal peace and wellbeing and directly impacts pleasure of interaction with others or building rapport with them. What if we possess power to create and have our own, stable and cosy inner world that gives us comfort of not noticing external negative events? Surely it is possible. Otherwise mankind would have died long ago..?
Energy flows where attention goes
Irritation is a reaction and it’s not built-in into our construction. It is an attitude. A way of seeing more negative aspects than positive ones. As our environment is the mirror of our attitude, our irritation surrounds us with negative events and unpleasant interactions instead of friendly people and circumstances. Like attracts like - it’s worthwhile to remember that. Americans strongly believe in positive thinking. And while some people think it’s very shallow, artificial attitude, the power of positive thinking is great. It is not about putting on a smiling mask but about the internal change in observation and perception of the external world. I know from experience that it works. Remember that you attract what you believe - whenever we are positive towards ourselves and to the world, we attract similarly thinking people and we practically create positive reality around us. According to Huna “energy flows where attention goes” so we reinforce the feelings, emotions, events and people that we focus on. Whenever we focus on negative feelings, we reinforce them, feed them and give them power to influence us. That is why it is so important to know where our attention is focused.
Each time I start to feel irritated, I start breathing deeper and focus on the breath. It helps me removing any negative energy flow and bring in the calm in me. I know already that irritation does not build or create anything, it does however consume a lot of energy, creates confusion in mind and fatigue in body.
The attitude can be changed. You can focus on seeing positive elements in life, you can also make system change by using Dekodyka process to eliminate source of negativity.
On a daily basis practicing MeBeing allows enjoying comfortable life through positive attitude. The short practices are handy to use anywhere you like. Not only at home, focusing on your breathing although it’s probably the most convenient as breathing plays the big role.